lingl9z
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Where do i start, was with the mother of my son for 6months and she had fallen pregnant, i was over the moon but soon after finally worked up the courage to split up with her due to the way she treated me from the start (burning neg with cigs when i was drink, putting them out in my drink, punching me in my stomache forcing me to coff up blood as i had a stomache ulcer etc)
Stayed in contact with her to see how pregnancy was going and even offered to come to scans etc, which she still denys to this day.
When she went in labour she never contacted me, wasnt untill he was born then she did so. she wouldnt tell me what hosp she was at and wouldnt let me come and see him so didnt see him for about 3weeks, still being told i could be put on the birth certificate.
Few days after got a txt saying shes done the birth certificate as she had to do it or he wouldnt get registered, i asked if i was put on, she said no and claimed i could be added later... fair enough... so time went on, finaly saw my son was the greast feeling in the world holding him in my arms, only got to see him three times before she decided i couldnt see him.
I then went solicitors etc letters was sent back and fourth untill it was said we'd have to take her to court, Soon after they told me it'd be 2k + and it could be on going with lots of fee's and at the end she still had a bigger chance of winning, upset and skint i had to give up, at this point i had been paying the CSA since a week after his birth, i noticed lots of parents try to escape it, i didnt, i wanted to do the right thing etc, stayed like that for a year (present date) now i've started a new job there whacking the fee up etc and im basicly still getting what i got before changing job so it was kinda pointless, Also i was planning to move out with my present gf then found out that the CSA dont take in to account my payouts (rent, car insurance, phone etc) so as it was i can barely afford to pay rent living at home let alone moving out, Then they told me they will have to know my gf's income so they could reasses me or i'd be taken to court and fined 1k for holding/lying about infromation, now im thinking wtf does she have to do with it, its not her kid and she shouldnt have to fork out money for my son? the money i pay out also wont go down if i was to have another kid with my new gf which is whats sickening, My ex is on benefits and all sorts, afaik has never worked yet shes getting money from me and is clearly out with her mates and buying new clothes and expensive makeup
Could you please sign these petitions if you think the whole systems taking the piss?
http://petitions.number10.gov.uk/scrapcmec/?signed=ddc2ed8.59a91f
http://petitions.number10.gov.uk/Csaruinslives/#detail
http://petitions.number10.gov.uk/csanonres/#detail
Thanks sorry rant over, this is just getting my back up...!
Stayed in contact with her to see how pregnancy was going and even offered to come to scans etc, which she still denys to this day.
When she went in labour she never contacted me, wasnt untill he was born then she did so. she wouldnt tell me what hosp she was at and wouldnt let me come and see him so didnt see him for about 3weeks, still being told i could be put on the birth certificate.
Few days after got a txt saying shes done the birth certificate as she had to do it or he wouldnt get registered, i asked if i was put on, she said no and claimed i could be added later... fair enough... so time went on, finaly saw my son was the greast feeling in the world holding him in my arms, only got to see him three times before she decided i couldnt see him.
I then went solicitors etc letters was sent back and fourth untill it was said we'd have to take her to court, Soon after they told me it'd be 2k + and it could be on going with lots of fee's and at the end she still had a bigger chance of winning, upset and skint i had to give up, at this point i had been paying the CSA since a week after his birth, i noticed lots of parents try to escape it, i didnt, i wanted to do the right thing etc, stayed like that for a year (present date) now i've started a new job there whacking the fee up etc and im basicly still getting what i got before changing job so it was kinda pointless, Also i was planning to move out with my present gf then found out that the CSA dont take in to account my payouts (rent, car insurance, phone etc) so as it was i can barely afford to pay rent living at home let alone moving out, Then they told me they will have to know my gf's income so they could reasses me or i'd be taken to court and fined 1k for holding/lying about infromation, now im thinking wtf does she have to do with it, its not her kid and she shouldnt have to fork out money for my son? the money i pay out also wont go down if i was to have another kid with my new gf which is whats sickening, My ex is on benefits and all sorts, afaik has never worked yet shes getting money from me and is clearly out with her mates and buying new clothes and expensive makeup
Could you please sign these petitions if you think the whole systems taking the piss?
http://petitions.number10.gov.uk/scrapcmec/?signed=ddc2ed8.59a91f
http://petitions.number10.gov.uk/Csaruinslives/#detail
http://petitions.number10.gov.uk/csanonres/#detail
Thanks sorry rant over, this is just getting my back up...!
