Unfortunately all this shows is that you are judgmental. Firstly I see nothing "niave" about western society, it is an open and tolerant place which accepts everyone and affords them respect.
Secondly you know she has respect for herself because of what she wears? So by that thinking my girlfriend, who does not wear a burqa, does not have respect for herself? What gives you the right to make that assumption. She has respect for herself and is respected by me. She does not live in fear or feel like she is a second class citizen as she would in islamic society. She is successful in her job has a great social life and is free to do anything she pleases - she has enough integrity and moral fiber to make her own decisions about what is right and wrong and does not seek to be instructed in such things by any man or oppressive religion.
And when you see women wearing skin tight clothes you feel ashamed that they "have to dress like that" - the fact of the matter is that they do not HAVE to dress like that, they CHOOSE to dress like that. The wonderful thing about civilised society is that they have the freedom to choose.
Muslim men talk about their respect for women etc but I have always believed that talk is cheap and I measure a person or religion by its actions not by its words. Judging women based upon if they completely cover themselves or not gives a very good idea of how much respect you have for women, that is a personal observation. Islam in general has a very low opinion of women indeed, you will probably call this propaganda, I will call it the savage reality of islamic law
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r4ooQ--Z_5s&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wfPSN_92v2w&feature=related
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2011/feb/04/bangladeshi-girl-whipping-fatwa
http://www.apostatesofislam.com/media/stoning.htm
I could post videos and news stories all day to counter what you are saying but its pointless, you will just say women are treated as equals. Go online and find me a video from a western civilised country of a woman being buried alive and stoned to death or whipped to death... the closest you will come is a woman having acid thrown in her face in the UK... and guess who did that...
Say no the Dhimmitude.