An odd situation, how would you handle it?
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imavisitor
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How was you! sorry
he get caught anyway??
did he get lazy and try and steal them with her in them still:haha:
what if he's knicked your trunks too
:shoot:
Have to agree with you about the boyfriends handling of the situation, better restraint than a four point harness a big:slap:would have been going his way if it was me.
oh and now the :beer: kicked in, did you!!! sorry hepay a secondhand price for said skimpies?
You can tidy the thread up abit before you show her:haha:
he get caught anyway??did he get lazy and try and steal them with her in them still:haha:
what if he's knicked your trunks too
:shoot:
Have to agree with you about the boyfriends handling of the situation, better restraint than a four point harness
a big:slap:would have been going his way if it was me.oh and now the :beer: kicked in, did you!!! sorry he
pay a secondhand price for said skimpies?You can tidy the thread up abit before you show her:haha:
Starlet_Sam
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I'd have gone to the police, tis fuckin sick really.
ChrisGT
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Went through her dirty laundry? Broke into her house and raided her knicker drawer? God knows, funny though!
Suspected_Psycho
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Thats in intresing one - threads like this get my attention fully..
I proberbly would steel someones nickers if she was hot, but I would proberbly tell her i was going to.. to sniff obviously and to let my mind think/imagine whats been happening down there .. oh dont, the thaught .. ! (thats for all the people that were wondering what he was doing with them)
However, I think she handled the situation well - I would personally talk to the guy again, tell him that whatever happend in the past has happend and that they he should make some concerted effort to patch things up with the group.. If he dosent threaten him with telling the whole story to the group - He will soon go out his way..
As for the BF part, didnt really read that but - I would proberbly just laugh it off, he was proberbly worried but felt that his g/f handled the situation responsibly and trusts her judgment! Solid relationship proberbly!
I proberbly would steel someones nickers if she was hot, but I would proberbly tell her i was going to.. to sniff obviously and to let my mind think/imagine whats been happening down there .. oh dont, the thaught
.. ! (thats for all the people that were wondering what he was doing with them)However, I think she handled the situation well - I would personally talk to the guy again, tell him that whatever happend in the past has happend and that they he should make some concerted effort to patch things up with the group.. If he dosent threaten him with telling the whole story to the group - He will soon go out his way..
As for the BF part, didnt really read that but - I would proberbly just laugh it off, he was proberbly worried but felt that his g/f handled the situation responsibly and trusts her judgment! Solid relationship proberbly!
ChrisGT
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I proberbly would steel someones nickers if she was hot, but I would proberbly tell her i was going to.. to sniff obviously and to let my mind think/imagine whats been happening down there .. oh dont, the thaught
Hmmm...sounds appealing now! Hahaha
Johnny_C
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lol!:haha:Toooo much info chap...............................................
AdDaMan
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Thats in intresing one - threads like this get my attention fully..
I proberbly would steel someones nickers if she was hot, but I would proberbly tell her i was going to.. to sniff obviously and to let my mind think/imagine whats been happening down there .. oh dont, the thaught
think weve found our culprit....!
The username says it all lol
dont_tell_him_pike
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Yes I think the 'suspected' bit may now be innacurate...
Anyway, as to why the Bro is angry - he now has to spend the rest of his life knowing his brother has a knicker/stalker perversion. Imagine if it was your sibling, imagine how much you'd wish you'd never been told. he's angry about the damage to his relationship with a close family member, and he's lashing out. I think there's also an element of denial, he'd far rather believe that she is lying because his relationship with her is far more dispensible then that with his brother. Maybe the way forward there is to be more understanding of his situation and hope he reciprocates.
If the mates are being unfriendly to her because they've been misinformed, either agree on some way of dismissing it with the perv n bro (assuming you've sorted things there first) or worst case just tell them what happened, he'd have brought that about himself...
Anyway, as to why the Bro is angry - he now has to spend the rest of his life knowing his brother has a knicker/stalker perversion. Imagine if it was your sibling, imagine how much you'd wish you'd never been told. he's angry about the damage to his relationship with a close family member, and he's lashing out. I think there's also an element of denial, he'd far rather believe that she is lying because his relationship with her is far more dispensible then that with his brother. Maybe the way forward there is to be more understanding of his situation and hope he reciprocates.
If the mates are being unfriendly to her because they've been misinformed, either agree on some way of dismissing it with the perv n bro (assuming you've sorted things there first) or worst case just tell them what happened, he'd have brought that about himself...
sx_turbo
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are the other friends realy being different or is she just being paranoid??
i think she should ask the guy's brother why he has changed his attitude towards her and her boyfriend, and maybe ask him why the others are also acting strange.
it may be that the brother is feeling really embarrased himdelf about the whole situation which is why he seems to act funny.
all it takes is just 1 person to be a bit funny in a group and the rest can sense it and things just change without words having to be said to each other.
i think she should ask the guy's brother why he has changed his attitude towards her and her boyfriend, and maybe ask him why the others are also acting strange.
it may be that the brother is feeling really embarrased himdelf about the whole situation which is why he seems to act funny.
all it takes is just 1 person to be a bit funny in a group and the rest can sense it and things just change without words having to be said to each other.
Kelly
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Here goes.....
Well firstly thanks for the thread Dylan i know you was trying to show me that other people would not have handled it the way i did and i should give myself some respect even if others dont.
I saw this thread late last night and its taken me until now to agonise on if i should reply or not
And yes incase you didnt guess it was me Dylan was referring to i was unfortunate to have this weird experience be one of many in my life but i thought i'd better reply just to set the record straight on a few things.......
i feel rather sad writing about this now as it was a few months ago but i stil feel very bitter about the whole situation. And i dont like that side of myself
Firstly, the stuff was being taken over a few months i think, obviously the first few things that went missing i thought i had misplaced them, then i thought my house was haunted and then i thought maybe i was mad, not once did i ever think someone close to me was taking my things.
I told one member of our group of friends of the scenario without mentioning any names etc and he insisted that the right thing to do was tell everyone in our group so that i didnt get treated any differently. So i did as and when i saw people after the whole thing went up in the air.
The things that eat me up basically are,
it took lots of denying and being made feel guilty and having it turned back around on me before the actual confession. But i guess i can understand how someone in that situation will not wanna admit to anything unless they have to.
The fact that the night i got the person in question to confess that it was him who was taking my things i was scared shitless on what he must be thinking and feeling etc etc and worried what may happen next, little did i know he was out and about like normal with our mutual friends whilst i was sat at home quite upset.
I just feel like i cant move on completley as sometimes when some of our mutual friends are out and about with the person in question we obviously dont get invited etc etc and i guess it just makes u feel like shit sat at home and reminds you of why, whereas before we would have all been doing stuff together etc.
The good thing to come out of this is obviously a few select ppl stood by me and told the person in question that it was wrong and they cant believe what they did etc etc and to me those people are people i can honestly say are my true friends.
And yeh i can understand how people may feel embarrassed and hate the whole awkward situation but i just wanted to know that i handled it well and this was Dylans way of showing me i did. But tbh if i was guna lose a handful of friends anyway makes you think "why didnt i just go straight to the police?" or "why dont i just shame them etc etc" " why didnt i get Ben kick shit out them" but im too soft for anything like that and i know my boyfriend is better than that and better than them.
I just feel annoyed i went out my way and had to have a few agonising weeks/months of trying get my head around this. And obviously being made to feel left out not just me but obviously this effects Ben too is just pathetic.
Who knows might lose a few more friends now for dragging this back up again but i guess its a way of filtering the bad ppl out my life....
sorry for the essay!
Well firstly thanks for the thread Dylan i know you was trying to show me that other people would not have handled it the way i did and i should give myself some respect even if others dont.
I saw this thread late last night and its taken me until now to agonise on if i should reply or not
And yes incase you didnt guess it was me Dylan was referring to i was unfortunate to have this weird experience be one of many in my life
but i thought i'd better reply just to set the record straight on a few things.......i feel rather sad writing about this now as it was a few months ago
but i stil feel very bitter about the whole situation. And i dont like that side of myself Firstly, the stuff was being taken over a few months i think, obviously the first few things that went missing i thought i had misplaced them, then i thought my house was haunted
and then i thought maybe i was mad, not once did i ever think someone close to me was taking my things. I told one member of our group of friends of the scenario without mentioning any names etc and he insisted that the right thing to do was tell everyone in our group so that i didnt get treated any differently. So i did as and when i saw people after the whole thing went up in the air.
The things that eat me up basically are,
it took lots of denying and being made feel guilty and having it turned back around on me before the actual confession. But i guess i can understand how someone in that situation will not wanna admit to anything unless they have to.
The fact that the night i got the person in question to confess that it was him who was taking my things i was scared shitless on what he must be thinking and feeling etc etc and worried what may happen next, little did i know he was out and about like normal with our mutual friends whilst i was sat at home quite upset.
I just feel like i cant move on completley as sometimes when some of our mutual friends are out and about with the person in question we obviously dont get invited etc etc and i guess it just makes u feel like shit sat at home and reminds you of why, whereas before we would have all been doing stuff together etc.
The good thing to come out of this is obviously a few select ppl stood by me and told the person in question that it was wrong and they cant believe what they did etc etc and to me those people are people i can honestly say are my true friends.
And yeh i can understand how people may feel embarrassed and hate the whole awkward situation but i just wanted to know that i handled it well and this was Dylans way of showing me i did. But tbh if i was guna lose a handful of friends anyway makes you think "why didnt i just go straight to the police?" or "why dont i just shame them etc etc" " why didnt i get Ben kick shit out them" but im too soft for anything like that and i know my boyfriend is better than that and better than them.
I just feel annoyed i went out my way and had to have a few agonising weeks/months of trying get my head around this. And obviously being made to feel left out not just me but obviously this effects Ben too is just pathetic.
Who knows might lose a few more friends now for dragging this back up again but i guess its a way of filtering the bad ppl out my life....
sorry for the essay!
dan
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Well firstly thanks for the thread Dylan i know you was trying to show me that other people would not have handled it the way i did and i should give myself some respect even if others dont.
I saw this thread late last night and its taken me until now to agonise on if i should reply or not
And yes incase you didnt guess it was me Dylan was referring to i was unfortunate to have this weird experience be one of many in my life
i feel rather sad writing about this now as it was a few months ago
Firstly, the stuff was being taken over a few months i think, obviously the first few things that went missing i thought i had misplaced them, then i thought my house was haunted
I told one member of our group of friends of the scenario without mentioning any names etc and he insisted that the right thing to do was tell everyone in our group so that i didnt get treated any differently. So i did as and when i saw people after the whole thing went up in the air.
The things that eat me up basically are,
it took lots of denying and being made feel guilty and having it turned back around on me before the actual confession. But i guess i can understand how someone in that situation will not wanna admit to anything unless they have to.
The fact that the night i got the person in question to confess that it was him who was taking my things i was scared shitless on what he must be thinking and feeling etc etc and worried what may happen next, little did i know he was out and about like normal with our mutual friends whilst i was sat at home quite upset.
I just feel like i cant move on completley as sometimes when some of our mutual friends are out and about with the person in question we obviously dont get invited etc etc and i guess it just makes u feel like shit sat at home and reminds you of why, whereas before we would have all been doing stuff together etc.
The good thing to come out of this is obviously a few select ppl stood by me and told the person in question that it was wrong and they cant believe what they did etc etc and to me those people are people i can honestly say are my true friends.
And yeh i can understand how people may feel embarrassed and hate the whole awkward situation but i just wanted to know that i handled it well and this was Dylans way of showing me i did. But tbh if i was guna lose a handful of friends anyway makes you think "why didnt i just go straight to the police?" or "why dont i just shame them etc etc" " why didnt i get Ben kick shit out them" but im too soft for anything like that and i know my boyfriend is better than that and better than them.
I just feel annoyed i went out my way and had to have a few agonising weeks/months of trying get my head around this. And obviously being made to feel left out not just me but obviously this effects Ben too is just pathetic.
Who knows might lose a few more friends now for dragging this back up again but i guess its a way of filtering the bad ppl out my life....
sorry for the essay!
Well done, takes some courage to come forward.
Ive refrained from commenting on this up until now seeing as kelly is a close friend of mine (no, wasnt me taking the stuff before anyone says)
Being part of this group of friends, I know first hand how its effected the group and worse of all kelly and ben. Its bollocks how things have worked out and how they have become the worse off out of the whole situation.
Im not going to drag up the past and how I felt about the whole situation, but let it be said, I made my feelings quite clear to all involved. Especially the person who took the items.
well done matey.
Kelly
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