An odd situation, how would you handle it?

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Well done for posting up, can't have been easy.

Like you say, you can now see that you have true friends around you and thats probably what matters most, just a shame it has taken something like this to find out whichs ones.

More importantly, by somebody taking the time to post this thread up for you, you can also see that there are people around you that worry about you also.

Only you will know how this has affected you, I hope that it is not deeper than you let on, if it keeps on your mind talk about it, don't keep it bottled up.

The thing with groups of friends is, eventualy some move on, grow apart, or whatever and you will find that in time only the real friends will remain together.

Again well done for having the guts to deal with the situation.

big hugs
 
Phil

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nope, good girl well worked. not your fault, but what happen is to be expected after confronting an issue like that. it is normal fora fella to react better or at least differently when something like that coming out!

girls tend to tells themselves that they wont let it hold them back you drag them down but in essence thats exactly what they do, say all the right things while thier bodies just have to have a down period to get over it all.

the guys says he feels wick about it all, but deep down he isnt hurting that bad and simply does normal things as usal without having to tell himself to or talk himself into going out etc.

imo well done

Phil
 
Kelly

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montanajr said:
Did you catch him in the act then Kelly? How'd you get him to confess ?!?
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No didnt catch him in act but infact at that point in time i was quite happy to ignore the whole situation rather than address it i really wouldnt let my mind process what was happening.

I basically let all my friends become aware that i knew one of them was stealing off me and they had a few hours to confess before i told everyone. the person denied tried ask me in confidence what was wrong etc etc and played dumb but i was having none of it. Anyhow after many several text messages denying it was him and that he was upset i didnt trust him and our friendship he admitted it.
 
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imavisitor said:
Well done for posting up, can't have been easy.

Like you say, you can now see that you have true friends around you and thats probably what matters most, just a shame it has taken something like this to find out whichs ones.

More importantly, by somebody taking the time to post this thread up for you, you can also see that there are people around you that worry about you also.

Only you will know how this has affected you, I hope that it is not deeper than you let on, if it keeps on your mind talk about it, don't keep it bottled up.

The thing with groups of friends is, eventualy some move on, grow apart, or whatever and you will find that in time only the real friends will remain together.

Again well done for having the guts to deal with the situation.

big hugs
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thanks i need that hug! ha

i stil feel bad tho im too soft i feel sad for the people in question i feel sad for them like an idiot. But like Dylan says i did nothing wrong i shouldnt give it a second thought but i do. Thats just who i am.

sx_turbo said:
i wasnt calling your life sad, i meant the situation being a sad situation.
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its ok Ricky i didnt think for a second you was that was just my own spin on it! i know your not that harsh :)
 
sx_turbo

sx_turbo

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i can imagine this xmas will be a tough one for you and ben given all the problems with your friends,

you have been very brave so far, and ben has been quite admirable in his ability to not slap this guy a few times.

but i think you need to concentrate on the christmas ahead and it will soon be a new year, and a new start. chin up girl :)

i vote for a tgtt group hug for u and ben :p
 
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hope this things a little bit more bearable for you now luv! ill pop round and stick kettle on in the next day or so! :)
 
nicholai

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i think she handled it very well she should not worrie about it anymore she did the right thing in my eyes the guys should be grateful that she did not tell the group as he would have had it riped out of him but she seems like a nice enough girl and thought about him aswell. If her friends are not bothering with her about this then i think that they are not good enough friends and she should stop seeing them i had a similar problem with my friends and they would using me. So in my eyes she did a nice thing not to tell and she diserves better friends she should no longer worrie hope this helps you and helps her mate :):):):):):)

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I have never understood men who steal underwear, not a turn on for me at all:rolleyes:

Would much rather see it on the girl, shit- pervert to stalker:rockon:
 
gv1.3

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Hey Kelly I hope now you fully see that this was not your fault and some of the comments in this thread are pretty much what I was thinking. I mean when something as odd and awkward as this happens it can be difficult for those involved to get past it.

I tried to put myself in their shoes and if my brother did something like this to a friend of mine I would like to believe nothing would change between me and my friend but I guess until it happens you just cant tell.

I would be able to understand this a bit better if lets say you had called the police and had the person charged with theft and kind of went over the top telling absolutely everyone. Then his bro and your friends might have been thinking "she went a bit far with that" but as it stands the only thing you could have done less than what you actually did is nothing at all!

This chap got off very very very lightly in my opinion and his brother and your friends should respect you for that and he should be the one being treated differently in my opinion as he violated your trust.

I hope this thread achieves what it was set out to and you can put this matter to bed. Your friends are easy to spot... they are the ones who are still around when the dust settles.

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stedee

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i would of left a note in my knicker drawer if i had one saying "fuck off you pervert" bet it wouldnt have happened again
 
Kelly

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stedee said:
i would of left a note in my knicker drawer if i had one saying "fuck off you pervert" bet it wouldnt have happened again
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haha as Dylan said he did suggest this! At one point i was guna leave my video camcorder in the room recording but i dont think i could deal with what i may have seen!


Aye Dylan your reply above is spot on there thanx again for being my voice of reason as always :p


Yes true nicholai i have the toyota family!
 
Kelly

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dan_ep82 said:
u handled it very well kelly, if someone done that to my GF id be naming and shaming the bastard.
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thanx Dan :)

Aye naming and shaming would make me feel like a bully but just may as well say for when/if they read this -

please think about what could have been? if i hadn't have gone easy on you. I actually tried think about everyone involved and even your family and i was the one who felt bad whilst you showed no remorse, even to this day i dont ever ever ever get the impression that you think what you did was wrong. i dont know why i bothered it got me nowhere.
 
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imavisitor

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Kelly,

I am getting the impression that it is somebody from on here?

Is that the case, or do you think that they may be directed to here?

sorry, just being nosey,

Also if the sitation continues to play on your mind and as you say no remorse from the other partie, along with it being you that has been the most effected by somebody elses actions!

It is not too late to take the matter to the proper people and let them deal with the matter! remember you are the victim here.
 
Dave.

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I heard it was Ben lol :haha:

Only joking...

As for the video camera idea - probably for the best you didn't... yuck

Dave
 
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