the fact that ur running rubbish fuelling is the reason mate not your ecu.
your rrfpr needs turning up a bit more, but the problem with that is, you'll be running really rich in the lower revs so u have the right fuelling at the higher revs.
if i were you i would just turn the boost down slightly until you get some form of engine management.
even if its just an apexi s-afc, you can pick them up on ebay for less than £100.
then you can fit it yourself in an hour(it only has 4 wires) then you can take it to get tuned again, for about £150